Two Years On…

Two years ago, I finally ignited my passion for writing and created my own blog. Admittedly, still at its infancy stage but at least it was born.

Without trying to sound too arrogant, since then I’ve embraced a new identity: a writer and a blogger. It doesn’t just stop there. I have evidence to back it up!

I don’t deny the fact that I did give up once. But thankfully not for too long. Two weeks later I made a comeback. I realized I simply cannot walk away from it.

Two years on… Well, what can I say? If I could sum it up in only a few words: Watch this space!

From me to you… Never surrender!

Ted

Words Matter, But Word Order Matters Even More

Words hurt. Words heal. Words can limit you. Words can also un-limit you.

The importance of word choice has been so widely discussed that it needs no further explanations or elaborations. I’ll save my breath here.

Asking questions is another art form of words. It’s also one of surefire ways to gain some clarity about things we’re curious about.

A change in word order or “question order” however opens up a new set of opportunities for seeing things or yourself in a different light, only for better.

When asked: How is life treating you? We accept it’s a fair, ordinary, everyday type of question. But if you shift around and rearrange it to: How are you treating life? And? How do you feel? Now you’re in charge of your life…

Why Living In The Moment Is A Must

This tranquil setting within a little-known reserve provides a temporary escape from a busy life outside. We came here on Sunday afternoon to enjoy the peace & quiet.

It’s a secret haven for me. A place where I can recharge batteries after a flat out crazy week in a corporate world.

Right here, you can’t help but want to slow down. When it comes to meditation, I’m not good at focusing on breath in and breath out that kind of thing. My mind wanders like a dog off a leash. Somehow, having a free will doesn’t necessarily mean it’ll set you free.

Interestingly enough though, at a bush site like this, I rarely think about the past nor the future. Living in the moment is a must. Meaning you have to watch your step. If you don’t, you are bound to hit your toes or trip over…

Curiosity

The less obvious, the more intriguing.

Curiosity led me to discover this track to a secret Lagoon. Yes, I got lost in the middle but that was part of fun.

I love exploring the unknown because the novelty that comes along with it just never wears off. Again, I shared this moment with my little one Jamie…

Now, I’m sharing it with my readers. What are you curious about?

More often than not, I’m let down by own expectations. But when it comes to curiosity, I’m more likely to be surprised than disappointed.

There’s something about curiosity I can’t quite resist. Looking back at those so called hidden treasures I stumbled across, it wasn’t a map or a GPS or a guidebook, but curiosity that helped find my way…

No English, No Chances

Google chose their APAC headquarters to be based in Singapore rather than in Taiwan and elsewhere in Asia. Why do you think that is?

To be successful on the global stage, you must have a great command of English. If you don’t, you can forget about it. In that, Singapore outperforms the rest of Asia.

If you’ve ever studied a foreign language, then you probably already know the challenges and frustration that come with it.

So, what does it take to get your message across in a different tongue? Why do some countries do so well while others don’t?

In reference to English as a second language, today I learned that Taiwan, my birth country, ranked poorly (scored “low”) on the English Proficiency Index (EPI) 2018 released by English First (EF). Standing uncomfortably at the 48th place worldwide out of 89 non-English-speaking countries, this disappointing result was Taiwan’s worst over the last 8 years, dropped from the 40th place in 2017, the 2nd worst record in history.

With the next index due to be released on 05 November 2019, I’m very keen to find out how much worse it can get!

So, what needs to be done to increase the level of literacy and overall linguistic skills in English for Taiwan? Not that there’s a lack of focus or support from Taiwanese authorities, schools and parents. In fact, there’s plenty. But relying solely on an existing curriculum or external support network will not help students go far enough, because they have their own limitations, and this is true for any countries.

From a personal experience, it was the extra time and effort invested outside the school hours that helped me make a difference. Back in the day, I used to listen to the English broadcast on the radio to improve my listening and speaking skills. I also hired personal tutors (who were native English speakers) and went to private English classes in the evening.

I remember how I usually sat in a front row of the classroom acting like a top student. I just grabbed any opportunities I could to practice my English and ask a lot of questions.

Having a bit thick skin allowed me to keep my fears under control. Some common fears such as fear of being laughed at, fear of being called a show-off and fear of making mistakes weren’t simply in my vocabulary! To this day, I’m still the same person who loves learning new words and phrases.

With the convenience of internet everywhere, there’s really no shortage of external learning resources. So, to thrive, it all boils down to “inside job”. What? Inside job? Don’t freak out. By that I mean working on it internally to acquire language skills or any skills for that matter.

Lastly, confidence doesn’t come from self-talk, it comes from self-practice. It may not be as easy as ABC in the beginning but with practice, practice and practice, the results will soon speak for themselves…

Jamie’s Poetry 3

English is a funny language!

I can’t stand you. Your behaviour doesn’t sit well with me…

After I break up, I break down…

You may shut me up but you can’t shut me down…

If I can’t put up with you, I put you down…

Getting too serious? Don’t be. After all, life has its ups & downs. What goes up, must come down! Trust me, chin up, stress down!

A Date With My Brain

As you get older, your body starts to have a mind of its own. It can do all sorts of funny things without you realizing it. The best thing you can do is get yourself checked. The worst thing you can do is do nothing about it.

I’ve always been this person who doesn’t like hassle. But when it comes to health, it’s worth the hassle. It sounds very much counter-intuitive but excuses won’t help you find the truth.

I wouldn’t have imagined that one day this week that I’d see myself lying on the table of a scanner to have a CT scan of my brain. It was quite an unnerving experience, but the two medical staff there did an excellent job of calming me down.

When the machine started to turn, a few things were running through my head – Some childhood memories but nothing about external stuff like more money, more validation, more love, more happiness, more this more that.

I intentionally kept my eyes open during the process. Why? I didn’t want to miss anything. I wanted to see it, feel it and just get on with it, come what may.

How did I get through the next 24 hours? Was it hard? You bet. To put my mind at ease, I was listening to lots of my favourite songs and also singing along. It worked.

Not that I’m a superstitious person but I didn’t want to temp fate by posting this too early. So I waited till the result came out the following day.

And? I’m normal. Gee, I’ve never been called normal in my life and to see that word “normal” appear several times on the report, it felt great. A sense of relief was written all over my face.

It’s funny every day we celebrate when life goes well but rarely do we celebrate for just being alive. Isn’t it about time to go back to basics?

The health scare will always be there for as long as we live. That’s life! But life is to be taken care of, not to be scared of.

The mental health conditions we experience like fight or flight, anxiety and depressions, are our brain’s way of coping uncertainty. It’s just doing its job to alert us about possible dangers ahead. The fears and hopelessness we dread to face derive from brain’s primal instincts. Its main purpose is trying to protect us and keep us alive. Our brain sometimes can get it all wrong by misinterpreting or overreacting, but hey don’t be too hard on it! It’s still learning!

To be able to see first hand what my brain looks like, it’s quite something. As a side effect, I’ve never been more accepting of myself than now. I also understand why I am the way I am. Good, bad, beautiful and ugly, I’m taking all in. As for the past self critics that stuck in my head? They are forgiven and forgotten in no time…

Ted’s Quote 16

True, way too many things are beyond my control.

Interestingly, when I used my sense of humour to deal with most problems in life, that’s also when I realized not every problem was worth resolving… Ted Tsai

Money Can Wait, But Health Can’t

Are you someone who takes the bad with the good? Do you think there’s a positive side in every situation?

Do you still believe in the big picture out there even though you don’t see it in the first place? Or do you tend to take things with a grain of salt?

It was a bittersweet feeling when my dog was diagnosed with Keratoconjunctivitis sicca (KCS) or dry eye.

Bitter – My dog needs to be on medication for life and the on-going treatment is notoriously expensive.

Sweet – Finally there’s a way of managing his eye condition and keeping any serious consequences at bay.

Following my mixed emotions, I came to realize: After all, it’s only money.

Perhaps my vet had seen it all before. Therefore, my reaction didn’t seem to surprise her, not in the slightest.

While I got myself really worked up over the cost issue, she then quickly pointed out a couple of blind spots I didn’t see when she first broke the “bad news” to me.

  1. Only one eye is affected, not both.
  2. It happens when he’s 11 years old, not when he’s 6 months old. The medical expenses could’ve been a lot dearer.

Those words of hers may be a little bit cold comfort but they did help me keep things in perspective. Most importantly, they stopped me from dwelling on the negative side.

To set the wheels in motion, I’ve come up with an excellent money-saving plan to be incorporated into my daily commute and exercise together: To get off bus two stops earlier.

It’ll save me a small amount of money in a year time, enough for me to buy my dog a two-month worth of medicine. A great trade-off!

This experience is another reminder for me – Health always comes first. Money can wait, but health can’t.

All I wanted is for my dog to feel 100% again. That’s all any dog owners could ask for…

Why Absence Can Be An Expression Of Love

We’re all familiar with the saying: Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Think about those moments when we were away from a lover, a family member, a close friend, for whatever reason we couldn’t be there with them, absence left an empty space inside us that no one else could fill.

Absence is a dirty word that comes with a negative connotation. For example, absence from work, from school, from family etc, it reminds us of those unpleasant memories in our lives. Contrary to absence, presence, on the other hand, has been highly praised. Is absence that unforgivable?

My niece was born on Valentine’s Day. She must’ve been destined for love. We were all overjoyed to have her as a first baby in the family.

We all know bonding is very important at the early stage of an infant’s life. As a first-time uncle, I certainly didn’t want to miss any opportunities to do just that. Being a notorious time-poor person, I even managed to lay out a weekly visit plan. Results so far? It all went smoothly until the second week. I hit a roadblock.

What happened? There’re times when things just don’t go according to plan. That’s life, isn’t it?

I caught a minor cold. Being unwell means I can’t go visiting her as often as I wanted to or I’d put her at risk. Pity I couldn’t be there to watch her grow from week to week, I had to be absent from her life for the time I wasn’t well.

Fortunately, we can rely on the modern technology. My brother continues to send photos of hers via Skype to keep me updated. It’s amazing how much she’s changed. Her skin just glows, her eyes sparkle. She looks radiant.

My absence from her life came from only one place – love. This sentiment has led me to think of my past experiences – some flashbacks of my loved ones when they couldn’t be there with me . They gave me all sorts of reasons I didn’t want to accept at those times. Now looking back, perhaps some of them if not all would’ve done it for love. That’s how I’d rather believe it anyway…