Absence Can Be An Expression Of Love

We’re all familiar with the saying: Absence makes the heart grow fonder, aren’t we? Think about those moments when we were away from a lover, a family member, a close friend but couldn’t be there with them for whatever reason. Absence leaves an empty space inside us that no one can fill. Because a separation we have to endure, absence inadvertently, is like a bad guy bearing a poor reputation with some negative connotation attached to it. Examples are absence from work, from school, from family etc. They’re all unpleasant memories in our lives. Opposite to presence which has been highly praised for what it is, absence on the other hand falls short in all categories. But really? Is absence that terrible?

My niece was born on Valentine’s Day 2018. She must’ve been destined for love. We were all overjoyed to have her as a first baby in the family. Out of my busy schedule, I’ve managed to see her twice. Once when she was only 2 days old and still in the hospital, once when she was 1 week old and already at home. We all know bonding is very important at the early stage of an infant’s life. As a first-time uncle, I certainly didn’t want to miss any opportunities to do just that. Being a notorious time-poor person, I even laid out a weekly visit plan. Results so far? It all went smoothly until the second week when I hit a roadblock. What happened? There’re times things just don’t go according to plan. That’s life, isn’t it? I caught a minor cold. Being unwell, that’s when I realized I couldn’t go visiting her and put her at risk of getting an illness from me. No matter how much I wanted to watch her grow from week to week, I had to be absent from her life for the time I wasn’t well.

Of course, my brother continues to send through photos of hers via Skype to keep me updated. It’s amazing how much she’s changed. Her skin just glows and looks radiant. My absence from a few weeks of her life came from only one place – love. This sentiment has led me to think of my past experiences – flashbacks of loved ones saying No to my requests for being together. They gave me the reasons I didn’t get at those times. Now looking back, perhaps some of them if not all would’ve done it for love. That’s how I’d rather believe it anyway…

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